If you want to go straight to the treatment program which I used to overcome my own pretty bad case of retarded ejaculation, rather than reading this page, just click on this link: treatment for RE.
The reason I recommend this particular treatment method is very simple: it worked for me! (Also, it happens to be the only one available, which I do admit kind of reduces your options.)
The author says that the program is based on the techniques used by sex therapists to help men overcome retarded ejaculation / delayed ejaculation, which apparently work for 96% of the men who use them, so you aren’t likely to be asking for a refund!
More to the point, if you buy the treatment program, the author provides full support via email for you. Obviously you can download this prorgam and use it at home in complete privacy. Here’s the link: home treatment for retarded ejaculation (delayed ejaculation).
Now…..more about treatment methods and how they work. This is my interpretation of what I’ve seen, and I haven’t checked it with the author of the program, but hey, I like living dangerously!
You can think of treatment for retarded ejaculation as simply being about balancing the factors which affect the point during sexual arousal at which a man will ejaculate.
In other words, it’s about bringing back into balance all the factors that affect the speed with which a man comes during sex, so that the time between penetration and climax is once again within normal range. Of course what’s “normal” depends on the individuals concerned – one couple might be happy with two minutes’ intercourse, while another couple might desire ten minutes or more.
One thing’s for sure though: it’s necessary for a man’s partner to help him overcome retarded ejaculation. This treatment programme for delayed ejaculation is one that you can start on your own, but there’s definitely a point where you’re going to need the help of a sexual partner. So if you’re in this situation, the first thing to do is probably have a look at the treatment program and read it through, so that you know exactly what is expected of your partner.
At this point, you can go and talk to her and discuss how you can work on your retarded ejaculation together.
Historically, many of the treatment methods for delayed ejaculation relied on training a man to ejaculate more easily by means of masturbation, using a gradual sequence of different forms of stimulation. This began with him masturbating on his own and then moved through a series of steps where his partner would gradually come closer until he was able to masturbate with her in position ready for intercourse.
Just before he ejaculated, she would insert his penis into her vagina and hopefully the resulting ejaculation would enable him to relearn the “skill” of vaginal ejaculation.
Oddly enough, this technique can apparently work in some cases, but it isn’t used much now because masturbating a man who has retarded ejaculation with however much force is needed to obtain an ejaculation just reinforces unhelpful patterns of stimulation. Nonetheless in some cases a single ejaculation within the man’s partner’s vagina really is sufficient to change his sexual responses and enable him to ejaculate normally.
Much better though, is a treatment strategy that relies on re-establishing a man’s sexual arousal to the level where it’s adequate for ejaculation. Many men with delayed ejaculation do not have a particularly high level of sexual arousal, even if they have a hard erection. So any treatment strategy that depends on increasing a man’s arousal is a much more productive one, because it re-establishes normal patterns of sexual responsivity.
In the end, sexual arousal has to be physical, not mental. It’s certainly true that fantasy can increase sexual arousal, but fundamentally arousal originates in the body. You see this most clearly in men over 50. For a man of this age, fantasy alone may no longer produce an erection, and physical stimulation of his whole body is necessary to get him sufficiently turned on and erect to engage in sexual intercourse.
In other words, any treatment that produces an increase in physical arousal goes a long way to helping a man overcome delayed ejaculation. But there are many other things that help as well: techniques that allow a man to find out the things that make him most sexually aroused; techniques to reduce critical thoughts, by using mental fantasy as a distraction; breathing techniques to increase relaxation; ways of reducing performance anxiety and encouraging a man to take his own pleasure in sex rather than striving to please his partner all time – all these and more form part of an integrated treatment method.
You can read about all of these treatment strategies for delayed ejaculation here.
When a man has developed delayed ejaculation later in life, one aspect of treatment that can be helpful is to stop masturbating and to limit orgasmic release only to sexual intercourse. This can sometimes seem like an unappealing idea, but it’s often important in achieving good results.
Success in ejaculating during intercourse can be promoted by using appropriate sex positions which allow bodily movements that speed-up the man’s ejaculation, and temporarily using fantasies which mirror those used during masturbation.
These are only temporary steps that help to achieve the long-term goal of normal intercourse. And if a man is absolutely resistant to the idea of giving up masturbation, then he should do it in a different way, perhaps with his other hand, or perhaps using lubricant; anything, in short, to break the established pattern. The best way is to find a way of masturbatory stimulation that resembles the stimulation achieved during partnered sexual intercourse.
Once again, here is the link to a full treatment method that is almost guaranteed to cure retarded ejaculation.